Monday, December 7, 2009

Who's A Good Dog? (A Farewell to Jake)

Note to readers: You might want to grab a Kleenex.

You’re sleeping soundly in the dining room, right in front of the door as you always do this time of day. Must have been the Xanax I gave you.

We had a rough weekend, didn’t we? More so you than your dad and me. We can't fix what's wrong anymore and you deserve more than this life of chronic pain. It is why we've decided to make today your last day. And it is with immense sadness that we will say goodbye to you at 2:30.

Remember 10 years ago when we adopted you from the pound? You were a mangy, sick, unneutered 2-year-old Golden Retriever, only no one believed you were a Golden because you looked so bad. But you showed those naysayers, with your lovely coat and big Golden personality.

For all your shenanigans – all the times you knocked me over or stole my food, ran away and made me chase you all over town, barked at the mailman, peed on the neighbors flower bed (actually, she was mean, so I really wasn’t mad at you for that) – I will miss you deeply.

Thank you, Jake, for always coming to find me when you heard me crying. No one understands me the way you do. You will take with you all my stories and secrets. Thank you for being my confidant all these years.

Thank you always forgiving me when I yelled at you.

Thank you for sharing my apples and keeping me company in the kitchen while I chopped carrots. You knew I’d always give you the ends.

Thank you for being so kind to my grandchildren. Claire will wonder where you are next time she’s here. Not sure how I’m going to explain that one.

Soon we will feed you popcorn and an apple with peanut butter. Maybe even one last piece of cheese. The good stuff, not the kind in the wrapper.

Good bye, old man. I love you and will miss you so very, very much. Especially when I vacuum.

Say hi to Sasha and Bungee for me, OK? Tell them I still miss them, too.
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My daughter also wrote about Jake today on her blog, Sisters From Different Misters.

Jake and his Elvis impersonation.

41 comments:

  1. thanks for making me cry! :~(

    i hope things go well and that your last moments are full of not just sadness, but comfort that jake's going to be a better (and pain-free place)... sorry that this had to happen so close to the holidays... :~(

    {HUG}

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  2. Wow you weren't kidding about the tissue Lynn.

    I am sorry you lost your buddy Jake. My heart goes out to you.

    P.S. Jake totally reminded me of a dog I sit for named Titan. Goldens are extra special IMHO.

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  3. farewell wee fella... what a gorgeous dog. thinking of you lynn. lots of hugs from scotland!!!

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  4. That was beautiful as always, Mom. Love you.

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  5. So sorry about Jake. *hugs to you*

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  6. Aw geez. I'm so sorry, Lynn - it's never easy, even when it's the right thing to do (and thank god we CAN do this for our pets). What a lovely tribute to a very special dog. I'll be thinking of you this afternoon - sending you hugs from Texas.

    P.S. Pass the Kleenex, please.

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  7. I think it is always sad to put an animal down. There is no way to sugarcoat it. I was there when we put my cat down about ten years ago (he died in my arms), and it was so sad.

    I will also be thinking of you this afternoon with how hard it is.

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  8. Oh Lynn, I am so, so sorry. Know that Jake was lucky to have you take care of him all these years and how lucky your family was to have his unconditional devotion.

    Pets truly bring joy to our lives for the brief time that we have them.

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  9. I am so so sorry....I, too, got my four legged son from the pound 10 years ago, and nearly everything you said could be said about my fur ball.

    I am sorry that Jake got sick, especially this time of year. I'm going to go give my rag tag pup a hug now, after I wipe the tears off of my keyboard....

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  10. Thank you, everyone. He went peacefully. He can finally rest. But god I miss him :*(

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  11. {{{{{Lynn}}}}}

    I feel your pain. Dig out all the pictures you've taken over the years. Make a memory box of all his favorite toys. He will always live in your heart.

    We had to put down our cat in August after sharing our lives with her for 14+ years. She was a shelter kitty.

    None of our furry friends will ever be forgotten.

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  12. Lynn, I'm so sorry for your loss. It is so sad saying good-bye to a beloved old dog. I still miss the springer spaniel, Lindsay, we had to say good-bye to nine years ago. Thinking of you and sending hugs.

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  13. I am so sorry. It's a terrible day that we all dread. He had a good run with you guys. The quality of his life was greatly enriched by you. And thank you for the kleenex warning.

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  14. Lynn, I am so sorry and want to extend my sympathy. Grieving is so painful, but such a measure of how deeply we loved.
    Please let Claire know that all living things die and it was time for Jake to not hurt anymore. I know she is young, but she'll know you are sad and she needs to know (in a limited way) why.
    Most likely she'll be your biggest comfort.

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  15. ps. ask Jake to find my Bo-Bo and say Hi for me. I still miss my big beautiful Border Collie.

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  16. Lyn I'm so sorry for your loss. I feel your pain. Just over a month ago I had to put down my 16 yr old Golden, Jessi. Just this afternoon I looked out at it snowing on her grave and I cried thinking she's getting covered up by snow. This is total heartbreak for you I'm sure. Just reading your story about Jake makes my tears flow once again for my little girl. Maybe they'll play together up at Rainbow Bridge.

    Sending hugs from Ottawa, Canada.

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  17. Many hugs and much love to you. I recently lost a pet, and your sentiments about Jake made me weep openly. I applaud you for making the humane choice - it's certainly not an easy one.

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  18. My heart goes out to you Lynn. I am so so sorry about your dog. You and your family will be in my prayers.

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  19. What a great tribute to your very loved dog. Sorry to hear about your loss. It sounds like he was a great friend to you and your family.

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  20. Losing a long time friend is always hard. :~(

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  21. Again, I'm so sorry for your loss. I love the pictures... he was a beautiful boy.

    Like Heather, I also had a Golden named Jessie and she was the center of my world when I was 15. I still get choked up when I think about the evening I lost her.

    Someday, I'll be in a spot when I will want to get another dog, but it could only be a Golden.

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  22. {{{{Lynn and family}}}}}. Lucky Jake to have been picked by you guys! It's so hard when this day comes. I've done it many times myself, and for me, experienced great relief with the sadness when my dog or cat was old and in pain. What a great Golden smile he had :)!

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  23. Oh, it's always sad when a good animal has to pass on. My condolences on your loss.

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  24. My family has goldens, so this post really got me going. So sorry for your loss, but thanks for giving him such a wonderful home this past decade. Farewll, Jake!

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  25. oh god I am SO SORRY, Lynn. :(

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  26. Im so sorry.
    Ive been there recently with two and just dont know if I can do it again.

    hugs,

    Carla

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  27. Dear Lynn,
    I just read your post from yesterday. My heart is so sad for your. True Dog Lovers know your pain. I hope you can find comfort with your family & baby Claire.
    Much Love, Lynn Marie & my girls Katie & Lola (Basset Hounds) xoxoxo

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  28. Very sorry to hear about Jake. He was a lucky, lucky dog to have 10 years with a great family.

    Nancy in Eastern PA

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  29. Really, sorry to hear about your dog. It reminds me of losing our Labrador 3 years ago. Its was before our kid came on the scene so I suppose it was out first child.

    Even when I think about Val now I still miss him not only for the great company he gave but also for the great walks we went on together.

    My thoughts are with you.

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  30. Hugs - it is the hardest decision I have ever had to make (twice).

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  31. Oh Lynn, I'm so sorry for you and your families loss. Jake was a very good boy and so lucky that he found a forever home with you. Sending lots of hugs your way.

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  32. Lynn, I'm so sorry for your and your family's loss. (((hug))) Jake sounded like a wonderful dog who lived a very happy life with you all.

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  33. You're right, I'm crying. Losing pets is very sad.

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  34. So sorry about Jake. Putting down our Golden, Casey, was heartbreaking even though it was the right thing to do. Dogs are as much an essential part of the family as any member. Hugs to you and your husband.

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  35. Lynn, so so sorry to hear about Jake. I just got power back after 'the big storm' maybe the same one that hit you. Anyways, he just seemed like the greatest dog. And the greater they are, the harder it is to lose them. Isn't it amazing how they know when you are crying?

    Please tell Larry (my boiled veggie compadre) how very sorry I am for his loss as well.

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  36. Hi, Lynn. I am so sorry for your loss. I just lost my beloved dog-child in February miss her so. Our four-legged children fill our lives with such joy that it is hard to imagine life without their presence. No matter their ages when they pass, it's just never enough time is it? My thoughts are with you at this sad, sad time.
    Lolly

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  37. Oh Lynn...I am so sorry. You and Larry are in my thoughts.

    Pets are such wonderful comfortors and companions - Jake was paw-fection personified!

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  38. So sorry to hear about your loss. A few years agao we had to have our 15 yr. old English Setter, Jim, put down. It was one of the hardest decisions we've ever had to make. My vet said something to me though that still makes me feel better whenever I think of Jim. He said,"It is the truest expression of love to do this for your pet and if you didn't love him so much, it wouldn't be such a hard decision." I already knew these things, of course, but it made me feel so much better to hear it from someone who also loves animals.
    I hope you are feeling better and I hope you know that Jake would thank you if he could.

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  39. Thank you again, everyone, for your love and support. I know as a writer I'm always supposed to have words to say, but really, I'm at a loss to express my gratitude. Thank you for sharing your own stories with us, too. That's helped immensely. You know how in the moment of grief you think you're the only one? Well, we know now that we're not alone. Love, Lynn

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